Saturday, December 12, 2015

Wedding Series!

So post wedding I got a lot of requests to write about our wedding, the engagement process, etc. so I thought it would be great to do a wedding series of posts for you guys! I know on the appearance it doesn't appear like a "fit girl" topic, but truthfully I believe it is. I still stand by the notion that fit isn't just merely a physical appearance. Fit is an overall healthy mindset that involves all areas of your life. That being said, how to handle one of the most stressful times in many peoples lives (aka planning a wedding) definitely falls in that category. Plus, it's a fun topic :)

Some of the topics I will be discussing are:
Budgeting for a Wedding
How to Pick a Wedding Venue
Hidden Costs of a Wedding
What I Did Right (and Wrong!)
Tips for Brides/Bridesmaids

 So without further ado, let's get into it!

It's awesome!
It's exciting!

Your mind starts to go a million different directions with details, dates, food choices, dress styles and you lose hours upon hours of your day surfing Pinterest. At first its fun but then I remember I started to feel totally overwhelmed with all of these seemingly perfect Pinterest wedding details that made me feel inferior and overwhelmed. How could I pull something like that off? I'm not that creative and I don't have a million dollar wedding budget! BUT remember, although its a very important day and you do want it to be beautiful and memorable it should not be a day that puts you thousands of dollars into debt!


1. So my advice, before you commit to anything else it pick a wedding budget and stick to it. Keep this decision between you and your future husband and keep it realistic. Track your expenses closely and keep your budget as up to date as possible. The last thing you want to do is not have some type of accountability.  Eric and I used a simple Excel sheet to track how much we had spent/committed to spending vs how much we allocated in each category.

2. After you pick your budget, start deciding how/where you want to allocate those funds. Break things down into categories like:
  • Venue
  • Food
  • Photographer
  • Videographer
  • Cake/Desserts
  • Gifts
  • Honeymoon 
  • Dress/Accessories
  • Flowers
  • Invitations
  • Postage
  • Etc...
3. ACCEPT HELP! Many times there are super creative family members who can help you as part of your wedding gift. Accept all of the help you can - seriously. I know its hard to let control go sometimes but trust me, it will save you a ton of stress if you have people helping you out. For example, if you know someone who is super crafty with flowers why not discuss with them ideas for creating center pieces. Maybe you know someone who is great with Photoshop and can design your wedding invitations for you. Generally people really do want to help, so let them!

Soon I'll go over more specifics but remember at the end of the day to enjoy this process. It's an exciting time and it goes by quickly so try not to get hung up on the little things :)

Monday, October 26, 2015

Monday Mindset

Mindset is a funny, slippery little thing. Sometimes its like you have full control over it and other times right when you think you're onto something it slips right through your finger tips like sand. I'm trying not to dwell on the little treats (oops, Halloween candy) and focus on the fact that I ate a healthy dinner of chicken and potatoes and I even walked/ran tonight.

You see, I don't believe that the "all-or-none" approach works for most people. I think it's unhealthy to begin associating foods with being "good" vs "bad." Rather, I encourage people to think of food as what it is, food - a source of energy and nourishment for your body. Now I know it's not that simple (food from a social perspective is a whole other blog post in itself!), but I want people to focus on their mindset and less on the food. (i.e. its okay to eat the candy because I'm in full control of my actions. Does that make sense?)

I believe that it's a culmination of the small choices, the little forgiving gestures and the sense of gaining control over your choices that matter most. Not the few pieces of Halloween candy you snuck before dinner.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

The Next Chapter Has Begun

Well guys, it's been a minute but let me tell you, I am happy and I am on my way back. I actually even ran last night! Okay, it was less than a mile overall (and I definitely walked some) but I felt GOOD. I even finished off with some sprints down the street because I felt like I had so much stress/energy to burn off. It was literally a 15minute workout but it was better than nothing!

With all of the craziness of getting married and moving I haven't had much time to take care of myself physically. Now that the wedding is over, no more excuses. Now it's time to get back into shape, learn this whole newlywed life (learning how to take care of a house/husband/cooking/laundry/budgeting... this could be an interesting time to blog FOR SURE :) ) and focus on what makes me HAPPY in life. Getting rid of the toxins in my life and focusing on ME.

I don't think there is anything wrong with focusing on yourself because how can you take care of others if you, yourself, aren't strong and happy? I cannot be the best wife/daughter/friend/person if I am not in a healthy place.

A couple things I have started to implement in the last week or so:

I'm an introvert. I need calm, quiet down time to allow myself to recharge and refocus. "Introvert time" (as Eric calls it) was hard to come by when you're planning a wedding/buying a house all in the same 2 weeks! My alone time was essentially when I was driving places and that's simply not enough. ME TIME allows me to get my mind right. When my mind is right I am much happier (and I'm sure more pleasant to be around too!)

I've been trying to read every night as part of my ME TIME, even if its only 10 minutes or so. The book I just started was Girl Meets Change and so far it has really resonated with it. Kristen (the author) talks about how when change happens in our life that it is helpful to ask God to change our ATTITUDE towards the change rather than change the situation. That perspective is something I am trying to implement when I face something during the day that I don't want to do. Baby steps, but I think it's helping!

I have a house now. A 1798 square foot home that I need to take care of! This is much more to take care of than my bedroom/bathroom at my parents house. Slowly but surely I'm learning where to put things, what I need to keep stocked in house, when to do laundry, etc. If at the end of a stressful work day I don't have it in me to continue putting clothes/items away from moving I just try and put a few things away and save the rest for tomorrow. I don't have to build a "perfect home" overnight! Although building a home truly is a fun and humbling experience for sure.

I'm married now and that's different from dating. Priorities are different and I'm still learning to change my mind set from "what am I having for dinner?" to "what are WE have for dinner?" Asking about each other's day and listening to their thoughts/concerns/feelings about an issue are super important.

I've honestly been having "the blogging itch" again, which I am so excited about! While I was so stressed with working full time, planning the wedding, buying the house, etc I didn't really have the urge to block - I was just focused on keeping my head above water. But now, I feel the urge again! I miss it. It's something I enjoy and a great outlet for me. So here I am again, I hope you'll have me back :)

Off to have a productive/fun/stress free weekend with my husband!

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Making Chocolate Pudding at 4 O'clock in the Morning

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See, even Stu Pickles loses it. I miss that show.

Well guys, it turns out that working full time, going to school, planning a wedding and buying a house all at the same time will take up 99.9% of your time and will drive you within an inch of your sanity! No need to consult google for that one.

**And please don't think I am trying to puff myself up or belittle other's (more serious) problems but I am human who gets stressed out and I want to share my struggles with you too.**

Quite honestly, it has taken a toll on my health (physical and mental). I should definitely know better but I've let things slip under the rug. I've let other people's bad attitudes alter my attitude. I've skipped workouts (a lot of them) and chosen to eat less healthy foods way more times than I should have. It can be hard to look at yourself in mirror and realize that you've lost control but its an important reality to face.
Am I lost? 

Am I frustrated? 

Will I give up? 

Here is my plan to gain back control of my life (am I too young to say that?)

  • Self-Care

Do things that are good for your soul. Do things that keep your spirits up and happy. Take a nice hot shower, relax with a good book, have quiet time, get a manicure, read from your Bible, etc. When you take care of yourself your body will naturally de-stress. When you de-stress you not only think clearer, you gain control. 

  • Evaluate "Excuses"

Do I really have too much to do today or am I just making an excuse to not work out? Learn to be "real" with yourself. Focus on how you will feel afterward or don't even think at all; get dressed and out the door before you have time to doubt yourself. 10 minutes of working out is better than nothing.

  • Plan
Planning ahead of time in any area of your life isn't a sure fire way for success but it is MUCH more likely that you'll land somewhere close to it! Even if it's only two "small" goals you plan in your day, they create momentum. The more goals you reach, the more likely you'll continue. Examples of small goals would be to drink 6 bottles of water in a day or to put 1/2 the amount of sugar you usually do in your coffee. The key is to make them attainable and measurable! 

  • Be Nice to Yourself!
You are a rockstar capable of all things. You aren't perfect, but who is? Spanx and photoshop exist for a reason...we are all human! Don't be so hard on yourself if you "mess up" (whatever that means!) Forgive yourself and move on. Positive self talk goes a long, long way. 

Saturday, March 28, 2015

My news & a protein shake

Okay, most important news first. Let me just tell you how amazing this protein powder is. MyProtein Cookies and Cream flavor. So dang good!

I mixed together in my Nutribullet:

It tastes just like ice cream! No funky "protein powder" flavor. No chunks. Just pure awesomeness in a cup :)

I am dying to try out their other flavors - Strawberry Cream & Cinnamon Roll? Yes, please! My favorite part about their products so far is the lack of "protein powder" flavor. If it tastes artificial, I probably won't like it. I can safely say this product tastes GOOD. 

I can't wait to try and bake with it! You better believe that cookies & cream protein pancakes will be in the works ASAP. I will keep you all posted on my progress! In the mean time, do yourself a favor and check out MyProtein's awesome selection of protein powders and other products

I totally recommend navigating their website using Your Goals. Very helpful for product selection based off of your unique goals. I've always believed that whether it's eating, training or shopping for supplements you need to focus on your goals and preferences to get results. 

{ALSO: use code EXCLUSIVE to get 25% off your first order!}

{Ignore the post workout sweat/crazy hair.} 
Myprotein shake was the perfect recovery on this hot So-Cal day. WAIT, What's that on my left hand? 

 {My exciting news} 

It has been a crazy busy time planning a wedding, buying our first home, finishing my degree and working full time but I am so excited for the future! The big day is September 19, 2015 which is only 6 months away. AHH! It will be here before I know it but I am trying to savor this time as much as I can. 

Any wedding planning tips from you ladies out there?
Did you change your diet/workout routine in preparation for your wedding?
Protein powders - love 'em? hate em'? Which flavors are your favorite?

Tuesday, March 3, 2015

A little reminder

Hello everyone! Just thought I'd drop in and let you know that I'm still alive :)

 I have been swamped lately to say the least. A few major life changes happened (I will share the exciting new soon!) that has taken up a huge chunk of my time but I am still here! 

I wanted to re-share with you some truths I wrote in a blog awhile back. After the holidays I think a lot of people set goals for themselves at the start of the new year. And by now, some people may be struggling with staying on track or feel frustrated because they have fallen off course. Here is an excerpt from a post I wrote a while back that I think might help you with your perspective. As always, if you feel the need for individual help please contact me. You are not alone. Ever! I am always here for guidance and support! I hope this will serve as a healthy reminder for you that it's about progress, not perfection...

There is no time for excuses, only improvements. Own these 5 truths and become unstoppable:

Truth 1: No one is going to do this for you
  • Sorry, but there is no "app" for this. There is no "easy button." You could hire a personal trainer, a running coach, or a personal chef but it doesn't matter. You're either going to do it or you're not. Here's a little hidden truth about motivation: the sweetest successes are from personal perseverance. 
Truth 2: You are where you're at
  • You are not the same person you were 5 years ago. Don't dwell on how you got to where you're at. I don't care where you're coming from or how many times you've failed in the past: IT DOESN'T MATTER. You are where you're at. Pick yourself up. If you want this, you will do it. You will make time. You will plan, struggle, fight and do.
Truth 3: Don't aim for perfection, aim for improvement
  • How many people do you know that are so-called 'perfect'? Small improvements build confidence in yourself. Utilize that confidence to fuel you. Progress is the sum of small efforts day in and day out and progress is a sure way to success. 
Truth 4: You cannot change the cards you are dealt, only how you play the hand
  • You cannot change the fact that your neighbor eats dessert every night but doesn't gain a pound. You cannot change your genetics. There is absolutely no point in pointing out what others can and can't do. How is that going to get you to your goals? It's not. Focus on you and how to be the best that you can be.
Truth 5: No one has ever said this wasn't worth it
  • No one completes a marathon and says, "wow that was a waste." No one defeats the demon of emotional eating and says, "man I miss that guy."No one wants to go back to the start. This doesn't mean that they don't have set backs, it just means that they have the desire to keep going after they struggle.

Sunday, January 25, 2015

Mindset & Attitude

I posted this picture yesterday on Facebook but felt like it was worth blogging about because I think this statement has so much truth. 

You have the power to choose how you feel. For the longest time, I let other people control how I felt. I focused on how they spoke to me or treated me and it really bothered me. Why are they snapping at me? What did I do?  I always approached the matter like "treat others how you want to be treated" because to me that was common sense and I assumed that people did the same. Wrong. People will treat you how they feel like treating you and it's not your fault. Ever. Only recently have I focused on the truth of the matter - how they treat me is a reflection on them not on me. And Secondly, I have no power to change someone else so why waste the energy? The only power I have is to change my own attitude, which brings me to my next point...

You can focus on the bad or you can focus on the good. It's a choice. I can dwell on how something went wrong that day for hours on end but unless I take a lesson from it, it does me absolutely no good. The trick is to control how long you let the problem digest in your system. Take what you can from it, and then let it go. Not just pretend to let it go, but really let it go. Tomorrow is a new day which brings new opportunities for things to go right.

Taking control of your attitude and your mindset can be a really difficult thing to do but I believe it's so worth it! I have not mastered it by any means but I am always trying to move in that direction. 

Do you have any tips or tricks for keeping your attitude and mindset in the right spot? Please share! 

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